In conjunction with Natural HR’s #ChooseHappy campaign, we sat down with EmotionMind Connection Therapist, Hayley T. Wheeler. This campaign will look at how HR leaders and the wider community can successfully promote their own and their employees’ wellbeing, inclusion and create a diverse culture.
During our talk with Hayley, she explored how anyone can start to look after their own wellbeing while also striving to achieve happiness. However, before we jump into these points, Hayley was keen to describe what it actually means to #ChooseHappy.
“#ChooseHappy is your invitation to do something today that makes you smile, laugh and be happy. Happy doesn’t have to be one thing or the other, happy can be and is what you want it to be. Some people describe external things like watching their children excel at sports or being in nature, swimming in the cold open sea. Others describe the feeling of contentment, warmth and cosy or the heartiness of having a good laugh with loved ones, and every one of those is right.
“The dictionary defines ‘happy’ as ‘feeling or showing pleasure or contentment’, but happiness is yours to define, yours to make your own, yours to own. I often see portrayals of happiness on social media, where everyone looks happy, but don’t be fooled, I looked happy on social media when I was living with depression. So don’t pursue the happiness of others, go and claim your happiness in whatever form that takes.
“Back to the mental health topic and my first tip today. You are the most important person in your world. You may be feeling a little resistance to that because you may be a parent, you may be cared for by relatives, you may have a job, you may well be running your own business.
“But often, when we have all those roles and responsibilities, we put ourselves at the bottom of the pile, but who is going to do your job, who is going to care for your children, who is going to run your business if you are not well? So, if you were going to invest any time or money, I would suggest you invest in yourself.
“Let’s start putting yourself at the top of the priority list and maybe not all the time, but at least some of the time. It may well be that you implement self-care every day and self-care needs only to be five, ten minutes a day. It doesn’t even have to be longer than that as long as that time is quality.
“Choosing happiness isn’t always easier. So, my next tip is to define happiness. It seems quite simple, doesn’t it? But there are so many people that I work with that don’t understand what happiness is to them. They can talk about happiness, but they don’t know what it is.
“This is yours to define. Happiness doesn’t have one meaning; it’s unique to everybody. So, this weekend, maybe this week, you decide to spend some time explaining what happiness means to you. I’m going to leave you those two tips, and hopefully, we’ll start implementing them, and you will #ChooseHappy.”
About Hayley T. Wheeler
Hayley T. Wheeler is the original EmotionMind Connection Therapist, an accidental author and motivational speaker. Since getting to the other side of depression Hayley has helped 100’s of adults, children and families improve their mental health with her EmotionMind Dynamic programme.
Hayley’s passion is to help adults, children and families understand how emotions impact their choices, in order for them to gain back control & happiness. Her mission is to empower people to develop their super power, self-knowledge, her personal experience and that of her clients, tells her that self-informed people make better life, relationship, financial, business and family decisions.